Friday 14 January 2011

Where there's a will there's a good Catholic burial

Not precisely a popular topic but, this winter has seen off several friends and acquaintances and has highlighted a vital fact for Catholics with a traditional mindset.
That is, unless you wish to receive an OF Requiem Mass and a cremation afterwards, you should stipulate exactly what your liturgical wishes are in your will.

Now, before I am jumped on from a great height by lovers of the OF Mass, let me state at once that the choice of Mass - for one's last Mass on earth, should be a matter of your choice and yours alone.
The reason for expressing this concern is that, good and faithful traditional Catholics have died and, for reasons of expediency or mistaken understanding, been subject to modern Requiem Masses and a cremation. Fine if you want that but most trads do not.

Left in the hands of relatives or the local priest the arrangements soon become fashioned in a style that would not meet with the approval of the deceased.
My good friend who died last year (a traditionalist all of his life) received a modern Mass complete with Methodist hymns (as the priest said: 'His wife is Methodist and it will make her feel at ease") and all topped off with beret wearing flag bearers from the British Legion - strictly against Canon Law.

So, a good starting point is to be made while you are still living. What will happen if you suffer a stroke and sink into unconsciousness? Other than medical procedures the answer is, probably nothing. Most people shy away from Extreme Unction/Sacrament of the Sick, Last Rites, even good Catholics get a fit of the shivers at the thought of receiving this sacrament. Crazy. If its left to a non Catholic relative then you can forget the whole issue; it won't happen.
Ergo, make sure it is in your will and that those closest to you realise that the first thing to do (even if you drop down dead) is to call the priest and ask him to administer the sacrament (some priests appear reluctant to do this - but not the orthodox ones).
After that you specify that you require a full ocean going, fur lined, gold plated Extraordinary Form Requiem Mass - get a sung one if there is a choir available, after all, you will only do this once!
And please leave instructions that you do not wish for any eulogies, no embarrassing stories about things that you did when you were 12 years old and definitely no crappy bits of verse written by a maiden aunt when overcome by grief and cooking sherry. Make sure the priest knows that you want an orthodox sermon on the four last things; at least that might benefit someone in the congregation.
You may like to consider a piece of plainchant or a good hymn for the Communion period and, maybe, a breezy latin hymn for after Mass but the rest takes care of itself.

Now, my preference is for a coffin and six feet of earth over it. It's the expensive option, of course, but my preferred option.

Gulp! I don't want to plan too much in advance!
My children also prefer it because it gives them a physical point over which they may grieve, initially. And a chance to show their affection, occasionally afterwards, by leaving the odd bunch of flowers when in the area. It is also (though not exclusively) the more Catholic option as it leaves the body intact - no destruction of God's work other than Nature's).
So you may like to consider arranging a plot while you are living (to make it easier for them, one thing less to consider).
Am I being morbid? I hope not. My soul is going to need every bit of assistance available so I am not going to leave it to chance. I might end up getting "Shine, Jesus, Shine" as an entrance hymn...now that would be morbid!

2 comments:

  1. Thank you - time to make a Polish will and buy a plot.

    The school where I teach is next to the church, and funerals are nearly daily in the winter.

    Et in Arcadia mors.

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  2. great post. it was the first thing i put in my will when offered a free one by our Scottish estate-agent many years back.

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